Don't Just Be Gentle As A Man, Be A Gentleman!
Did you know that having a 'gentle nature or disposition as a man' doesn't automatically make you a 'Gentleman'?Your being gentle could be an enabler and enhancer to becoming a Gentleman if you submit to the rudiments.Some other words that you could confuse with being a 'Gentleman' are gentle, genteel, gentility, etc.Let's get some clarity.*The noun word Gentle means to have a mild, kind, or tender temperament or character. To be moderate in action, effect, or degree; not strong or violent.
*The adjective Genteel is defined by online dictionaries as, "Exaggerated or affected politeness, refinement, or respectability, a high-class."
*The noun Gentility is, "Social superiority demonstrated by polite and respectable manners, behaviour, or appearances. A quietly appealing elegance by virtue of fineness of manner and expression, etc."
But No, simply possessing these fine personal qualities still doesn't exactly make you a gentleman except you intentionally and consistently deploy them in the was you relate with people!As I earlier said the qualities - genteel, gentle or gentility are enablers of your commitment to becoming a Gentleman.Who Then Is Gentleman and What Does it Require?
Gentlemanliness is learnt, practiced and mastered. It isn't just a name or status, it's a committment to process of being right by the rules and doing things right.If you care to know, a major test by which the society measures Gentlemanliness is predominantly how you treat 'women or ladies' generally, and your special 'woman or lady' in particular. You can’t be a adjudged a gentleman without being chivalrous.Wikipedia defines being a gentleman as "Treating others, ESPECIALLY WOMEN, in a respectful manner and not taking advantage or pushing others.Simple and optional as being a Gentleman may seem to you as a man, you need to understand that choosing to become reputed to be a Gentleman could breed trust and dependence in your person as a man.It also opens doors to you in quarters that matter to your matter.NB: Parents, please add 'How to Be a Gentleman' to the character building curriculum you are using to raise your boys. #catchthemyoung
Choose to be one going forward... Read up or take a class on 'How to Be a Gentleman,' and 'Right Ways to Treat A Woman'.I'm Bosede Olusola-Obasa,
Best Workplace Attitudes Advisor and Corporate Culture Strategist,
